Rejection is a massive part of our lives. Rejection from people, jobs, colleges and it is inevitable. But you can’t live a life in fear of rejection. You have to go out there and live your best life and try to achieve your dreams.
I believe that rejection can be a great way to learn, grow and develop. But it is important to understand how you react to rejection and how to deal with it to make the most out of the situation.
Over the years, I have faced many rejections and I faced the most rejections while at University applying for placement schemes and then Graduate schemes. That was a difficult time for me. A big part of me wanted to give up because I thought if I don’t apply to jobs then I can’t get rejected and it was as simple as that. That is a common reaction to rejection, if I don’t try then I can’t get rejected. We apply this to our biggest dreams and biggest adventures to avoid the heartache of rejection.
We justify this behaviour by saying:
- I am not ready for this
- The time isn’t right at this point
- I don’t have the skills needed for this
- I don’t have the time for this
These excuses make it easy for us to not have to take the chances or take up the challenge and avoid that rejection. But what we don’t see is that if we don’t try we will never get what we want.
So how should you deal with rejections?
- Give yourself time – when you first get a rejection, it is important to give yourself time to deal with it so you can feel relaxed and be logical about your next step. When I got rejected from one of my top companies at University, I took a little break, asked for some feedback and most importantly tried to see why I was rejected. This helped me create a plan for my next move.
- Understand that rejection isn’t always a bad thing. Rejection can be a redirection to something better or to something that is more suitable for you. During the placement year, I was rejected by many companies but where I ended up working led me to some of the biggest adventures of my life that changed the course of my life in a very positive way. I started travelling and became more confident and outgoing. I wouldn’t change that for the world.
- Keep trying. It is easy to give up in the face of adversity. But is important to keep going. There’s a quote “if you are going through hell, keep going because why would you stop in hell?’ that’s what you need to remember every time. Envision your dream and keep going to make it come true.
- Remember, everyone faces rejection. From Steve Jobs to Oprah Winfrey, everyone has faced rejection of some kind. Yet they still managed to achieve great things. So don’t think just because things aren’t going your way or you are not getting what you want, that you will never get it. It will take time but it will happen.
Rejections are a part and parcel of life but don’t let them get you down. Find your path and keep working at it, no matter how many rejections. You will get what you want if you don’t give up.