Log kya Kahenge meaning what will people say?
I have heard this phrase so many times in my life and I think anyone from the Pakistani and Indian community can agree with me that they have heard it many times too.
I can already imagine some people being like so what? How does it impact you?
These three little words are the cause of so many people having to forget their dreams. The reason for so many people having to do something they don’t want to do.
At this point I would like to say that my parents have been very kind and have never actually let that impact the decisions I make. They let me move out, move to different countries knowing that people won’t be happy about this. But there are many people out there who are forced to do things so people don’t say bad things about their family honour and reputation.
Honour is a very important thing and in the fear that people will say something about the family and that their honour will be ruined people are expected to do things that are for the sake of society rather than themselves.
But I have a message for all the aunties and uncles and their kids and grand kids and families who say Log Kya Kahenge when their children come to them with dreams and ideas.
People will always talk no matter what you do. You could be an angel and even then people could say ‘she’s not angelic enough’. You could be doing everything right and they could say ‘he could do this better’. You can’t be perfect but you can be you and enjoy that.
So don’t let the community and the people around you take that away from you or your families. You should have faith in yourself and your decisions and that is all that matters. As long as you are happy with your decisions then let people say what they want.
They will talk about you today and another person tomorrow. That is how it works and you should not be worried about it. Live your best life and make sure you are not talking about people. Just as you are worried about people talking about you, people are worried about you gossiping about them so don’t be that person.